As early as now I try to teach my son to be independent!
At school, Ren is being taught to be independent, but I know he will learn it better if it will be followed up at home consistently. I know he is still very young to be independent and of course I don’t want him to do everything he needs to do. If he doesn’t ask for help, I will surely miss it too. I will miss the way he looks at me when he wants me to do something for him and his touch when he caresses you.
But I want him to learn that he can do something without relying to adults even how simple it is. Doing this will help him to build his confidence and self esteem. We usually celebrate things that Ren learned like wearing his shorts, taking off his shirts and the one we loved the most was when he learned how and where to pee properly.
Doing everything for your young ones because you love them so much may result to a child’s weak character. The child may become fearful and anxious most of the time. This child may not trust his own feeling and decision because someone is deciding for him.
Ren is still on the training ground and we still have lots of things to do. I am not rushing things and wishing him to be at his own soon but I am preparing him now for the a real word. We are still enjoying him and we are very happy every time he makes something new for himself.
Like for today, he helped me cook our dinner. I asked him to help me pull off the malunggay leaves from it’s stem and also he helped me put water in the pan.
We trained Ren to also eat anything that is served at the table, that is why he knows how to eat veggies. He already knows how to use the spoon but we are still on the training process for him to use the fork.
Also, he can now pour water from the pitcher to his glass. After eating, I usually ask him to help me wash the dishes with which he happily comply since he loves playing with water.
I know even though he doesn’t say it, he is proud of himself after doing the simple tasks that we ask him to do.
what ever happens in life we should always remember to live life to the fullest