As early as now I try to teach my son to be independent!
At school, Ren is being taught to be independent, but I know he will learn it better if it will be followed up at home consistently. I know he is still very young to be independent and of course I don’t want him to do everything he needs to do. If he doesn’t ask for help, I will surely miss it too. I will miss the way he looks at me when he wants me to do something for him and his touch when he caresses you.
But I want him to learn that he can do something without relying to adults even how simple it is. Doing this will help him to build his confidence and self esteem. We usually celebrate things that Ren learned like wearing his shorts, taking off his shirts and the one we loved the most was when he learned how and where to pee properly.
Doing everything for your young ones because you love them so much may result to a child’s weak character. The child may become fearful and anxious most of the time. This child may not trust his own feeling and decision because someone is deciding for him.
Ren is still on the training ground and we still have lots of things to do. I am not rushing things and wishing him to be at his own soon but I am preparing him now for the a real word. We are still enjoying him and we are very happy every time he makes something new for himself.
Like for today, he helped me cook our dinner. I asked him to help me pull off the malunggay leaves from it’s stem and also he helped me put water in the pan.
We trained Ren to also eat anything that is served at the table, that is why he knows how to eat veggies. He already knows how to use the spoon but we are still on the training process for him to use the fork.
Also, he can now pour water from the pitcher to his glass. After eating, I usually ask him to help me wash the dishes with which he happily comply since he loves playing with water.
I know even though he doesn’t say it, he is proud of himself after doing the simple tasks that we ask him to do.
what ever happens in life we should always remember to live life to the fullest
Hi Levy! I like this idea! Living with two toddlers aged two and three, we also try to instill independence in them, especially when the child wants to help out in doing the chores, but of course we cannot expect them to do everything right the way a grown up would! A must do in my opinion! -Mar
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I believe the key factor here is to be aware of how your child is and never push them to do something they are not ready to do just yet. Children develop in their own pace so it is important to go with the children’s pace rather than “train” them on what we want them to be doing by a certain time. Your son is doing really good and it does show that he is one of those children who loves to be independent at a young age and you are doing good by following through his own pace. It is good that seeing his cue on independence, you support him by encouraging him more and giving him these simple tasks where he can experiment more and enjoy his learned independence π
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this is such a great idea! they really love to help at this age kasi they want to learn din π he looks so serious with his cooking ha!
it’s really good that our kids learn to be responsible at an early age. good job, mommy Levy!