Forgiving someone = inner peace!
Forgiving someone who badly hurt us is really difficult. I know this because I myself experienced how to be bullied. What makes a circumstances even hard to forget is when the other person is related to you or someone who is really close to you.
Whenever we go to church we usually sing the “Our Father” song, and one line of the song is that “forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sins against us”. Letting go of the bad memories that happened and forgiving someone is really a big challenge in one’s life.
I once have a hater in the neighborhood, but I am proud to say that we are okay now. If I say okay that means we greet each other whenever our paths crossed and we casually talk when we need to. Of course we can’t get back the closeness and friendship that we had before, but I am still happy since the burden I felt for many months is slowly disappearing.
It is not necessary that someone needs to ask forgiveness before you can forgive them. Sometimes, even without this you will learn it just by being compassionate to the other person.
I am not an expert and I am still on the process of trying to be holy and good. But I learned to forgive people and here are some pointers on how I did it.
- I think of all God’s blessings to me and my family and by doing this I appreciate the beauty of life even more and thus, letting go of bad vibes is quite easier.
- I put myself on the other person’s shoes, this way I will have an idea why is the other person is angry to me. I reflect on what I did rather than what she/he did to me. When you are at the other person’s shoes it is easier to forgive him/her since you are looking at yourself.
- As I said, be more compassionate to the other person. We have no right to wish them bad luck but thinking of what you have that they don’t have can make forgiveness easier.
- Look at yourself in the mirror, if you see fine lines and wrinkles because of the stress and grievances you felt then maybe it’s about time to change how you live your life. Letting go of the anger and pain will give you inner peace and it will surely reflect in your aura afterwards. If you want to have a youthful feeling then learn to forgive and let it go NOW!
These are just few tips, of course, I know it’s easier for me to say because I don’t know your life stories but my greatest weapon on how I battle anger is that I keep on thinking that Life is too short and that we don’t know when will the world will end.
When you put in your mind that everyday might be your last day, then for sure you will make the most out of it and of course you will do everything to meet St. Peter and Jesus Christ in heaven right?
|photo via: www.birthpangs.org|
what ever happens in life we should always remember to live life to the fullest
sadly we wasn’t able to do visita iglesia 🙁
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to forgive is to let go of your self 🙂 this is good post 🙂
You give yourself a big favor when you forgive the people who has wronged you. This is a nice thought to reflect on during the Lenten season.
Aira of Buy and Sell Philippines says
It’s nice article. Ang cute pa nung picture mo.
I agree forgiving people is very hard. However, once we do we really free ourselves. It brings such peace.
I had recently posted this in my blog each with a different angle—just recently. I think forgiving is the the characteristic of the strong, and cannot be done by the weak. And I agree with you that the other person need not ask for the apology coz most of the time the other person does not know or probably stupid not to know he/she has done wrong.
I learned forgiveness by meditating and taking every message that Jesus teaches to heart–about forgiveness. The Bible mentions so many verses about forgiveness…and you know the verse which struck me the most is
“Forgive and you shall be forgiven.”
I know I am not perfect and I have displeased God too, so how can I ask forgiveness if I don’t extend forgiveness to others.
We don’t need to wish them bad luck but God promised us that we should not take revenge because it His task to avenge.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about forgiveness.
You might want to read my take about forgiveness much further–>