Special Parenting: Double the Hardships, Double the Rewards
Having a child is one of the dreams of every married couple. Parenting starts when you learned that you’re pregnant. It is when you start doing extra things like taking vitamins, eating the right food and avoiding stress for the baby inside your belly. You also start planning for his/her arrival and his/her future.
You like to plan for everything, but what you didn’t know is God will surprise you with something that is bigger than what you’re expecting…….. we got a unique child.
Raising a special child was hard. You need to be tough, have a lot of patience and of course resources to provide what he/she needs.
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What I did not understand that time was my son was having sensory issues. He doesn’t like to enter because the sound was too loud for him. Imagine yourself inside a loud room, di ba masakit sa tenga?…. the effect on him is double on what ordinary people feels and hear.
When he was diagnosed to have Autism, my world was crushed… pano na lahat ng plano ko? Anong gagawin ko? were the questions on my head that time. But I cannot live in denial and do nothing about it. I did some research and tips on what to do, we attend therapy sessions regularly and instead of hiding him, I exposed him to the world. When he doesn’t met my expectations I usually cry at night.
But I realized, kids are not perfect, I am not perfect and yet I grew up okay and doing fine. We told ourselves to just savor every day and shower him with love and kindness whatever happens.
My husband and I supported and did everything we could to help him catch up and get along with ordinary people. Thankfully he’s doing great now and compared before, there’s a lot of improvement from his development already. I am thankful I was able to see all the ups and downs of my son’s growing years.
In society’s standard, my son might be delayed in some areas but I’m confident that through proper guidance he will be able to handle himself well when he grows up.
From a boy who could barely talk at the age of three, now he can present and report in front of the class, answer questions and he even has his own YouTube channel doing toy reviews.
My son also thought me a lot of things. Whenever I worry he always tell me this “mom, all is well, just relax!”.
I know our challenges are not yet over, but with God’s help we will continue to love him and support him of his endeavor. Whether he finishes first, last, or not at all, for us, he’ll still be the best and that’s what parenting is all about.