We can’t decide if we will have another baby!

Ren is already 5 years old, every one is asking me why is it that he doesn’t have a sibling yet. Here in the Philippines, those who are advised to follow the family planning code should have the 2nd baby after 4 years gap. My sister and brother in law have followed this code and both of them had their 2nd child after 4 years of age. But, we have a different situation and hubby and I don’t know if we want to have a 2nd child.

Here’s why:

Since my son needs a lot of attention because he has ASD, we think that we can’t take care of another one. It would be unfair to the 2nd child if we will not give the same care and attention to him or her.
There is a possibility that the 2nd child will also have a special condition. I don’t think I can handle 2 kids with the same or related conditions. Honestly, I am not that capable to do that. I salute all moms who are in this situation, I don’t think I can do it.
We can’t support 2 kids financially as of the moment. We are not rich, the therapy sessions and consultation with DevPed plus other educational needs are expensive for kids with special needs. It’s hard to support one, what more if it’s two.

On the other hand, we know that Ren needs someone close to him to help and guide him when we are not around. Only a sibling can do that for him. A sibling can also help him in socialization.

As of now, our only hope to help Ren in case something happens to us are my siblings and my in-laws. We are just doing our best that if that time happens we hope that we will be able to leave Ren with a huge amount of money so that he will not be a burden to others.

I saw these baby pictures while browsing the computer (ang cute nya di ba?)