My son is testing my patience!

I am one of those people who have little patience. I get easily irritated by people who can’t get what I want or mean. Yes, I get mad easily. I know it’s bad but I am trying my best to avoid it, but sometimes I really can’t.

When I was still studying, some of my classmates would try to ask for my help to teach them how to do the homework (especially math equation), I will try my best to teach them but if they ask me again and again I get easily pissed off. Of course, I don’t show and tell it to them directly (since some are my friends) but deep inside, I am really irritated and I just want to go away.

Even at the office (when I was still working), when I was assigned to train a new employee I usually told them to write everything I will teach them since I don’t want to repeat what I say over and over again. I also tell them that I will correct their wrong doings only once or twice but if they did it wrong again on the third time then you will be the one to report to the higher management. I think this approach to a new employee is effective since most of the people I trained are really doing good compared to those that I am not their trainee. I believe that everyone has a potential but they just don’t know it if they will not be given a task that will challenge their capabilities.

NOW, as a mother and teacher to my one and only son, it’s really hard to do what I usually do to older persons. It’s really hard for a person like me to teach a young child what I want him to do. My head is really spinning right now! I don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong.

I think, I became this kind of person (impatient) because at a young age as I said I already lost my father, and my mom is the only person who took care for us. Me and my siblings are always left at home. I am the only one doing my homeworks and I usually don’t ask for help from somebody else. I was very independent and I am proud that even though that’s my routine, I am included in the Top students in our class (that’s in Elementary alright). 

Ren I think is a smart child, but he is also stubborn some times.  His teacher told us to practice his hand writing (a simple as holding the crayons and scribbling in the paper) but he doesn’t want to do it.  At first I will hold his hand and then I will release it expecting that he will continue it.  But, what he will do is also release the crayons from his hands.  He doesn’t want to write.

His strength is in reading. At an early age he already knows his ABC’s and he counts from 1-10.  I noticed his love on reading when he always flips my collection of magazines and his father’s comics books.  I always supply him with different books with hard pages and he already knows how to read some of them on his own.

But the teacher told us that besides reading he should also learn how to write.  Right now, we are both learning.  I know he will learn to write eventually and I am praying that my patience will get longer and longer.  I badly need to improve this.

Can you give me some advise how to teach a young child effectively and how to be patience in doing that.

Thanks!

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